To “affirm” something, by dictionary definition, means that you are declaring it to be true. So when I affirm that my leg is healthy and strong after a recent ankle break this is my formal declaration to myself and the universe of my intention for it to be the truth.
Some may say it is like "fake until you make it. For me it is holding onto the vision of what I know can be true. Here is my experience of how they work. We all have in our brains a thing called a Reticular Activating System (RAS), which is like a filter that lets in information that we need, and filters out information that we don’t. If we didn’t have this system, we would be bombarded with so much information that our senses would overload and we would go into massive overwhelm. Instead, our brain registers what matters to us based on our goals, needs, interests, and desires.
When you say an affirmation over and over again, a couple of things happen. One is that it sends a very clear message to your RAS that this is important to you. When you do that, it gets busy noticing ways to help you achieve your goals. If ideal weight is your emphasis, you will suddenly begin to see every gym and weight loss product. If money is your goal, investment and earning opportunities will move to the forefront of your awareness. In essence, the affirmation can kick your creativity into high gear.
The other way affirmations work is that they create a dynamic tension in our beings. If what I am saying is at a higher vibration that what I perceive the truth to be, the dynamic tension is uncomfortable. Affixations allow us to raise the bar on reality by making the affirmation and reality match.
So what makes an effective affirmation? First, determine what kind of transformation you want to bring about in yourself—a goal or intention. Or determine what quality, attitude, value, or characteristic you want to remind yourself of or develop in yourself. Second, if it fits, add an emotion to the mix or a word that qualities the statement.
Some say it takes 21 days of repetition for an affirmation make its mark on your psyche, so aim to keep your affirmation going for at least a month. In the beginning you will have to consciously choose to repeat your affirmations. If you repeat them at every opportunity they will begin to replace the negative mind banter that takes over when we are not monitoring our thoughts. I tell clients to imagine when the negative thought comes in you replace it immediately with an affirmation. Imagining yourself swiping the negative and replacing it with a positive much like we do when on our social media sites, swiping away.
Here are a few positive affirmations to get you started. Please feel free to share your own in the comments below!
My body is strong and healthy. My children are always safe and protected. I am a magnet for money and abundance. I am energetic and strong.
I always have enough money to pay my bills.
My body is healthy and disease free.
All my children are happy , sucessful and productive.